Thursday 23 September 2010

Mean aunt

I've had to read the riot act to my niece.  Really lay it on thick.

My parents - her legal guardians - know that I'm her nominal "role model" so of course I have a role to play in helping them to correct her bad behaviour.  When I saw them last weekend, my mum had tears welling in her eyes as she told me how awful her week had been.  My niece started secondary school last September and she's had upwards of 17 detentions since then.  But in the last week or two she's had one almost every day.  She's not doing her homework and she also screams and shouts at my mum when she's told to do it.  My mum's been crying a lot throughout the week as from her perspective my niece is "just like her mother" - lazy and horrible when confronted - and she can't face going through all that again.  My mum tends to label children a bit ...  Anyway, on Sunday I took my niece aside and began to lay it on really thick.  Obviously it's going to take more than one go at this (yeah, like that's even my first given that she's been getting detentions all year) so last night I followed things up.  Apparently she's done less screaming and shouting, but she's also had detention every day this week.  Including today because she told me last night she hadn't done her art homework (this was 8pm. She was very insistent it was too late. Not that I accepted that...).

I don't really get it.  I was never like this.  My (favourite) sister was never like this.  Other sister (not niece's mother) was never like this- even though she was never very good at school she got on with it.

So I did what I had to do.  "I'm really disappointed in you".  She went quiet.  So quiet that after a few seconds I had to ask if she was there.  I hit a nerve, I'm sure, but whether it will achieve anything... well.

I've asked her if anything's wrong... reminded her that she can tell me and that I'm here for her.  She says there's nothing ("maybe it's just because I'm almost a teenager now").  Maybe it's possible the child's just lazy.  She's also got a piss-poor concentration span (she can't read books, she says, but only magazines, because she can't concentrate on them).  But she can try, can't she?

I'm following up in two days.

Monday 20 September 2010

Betrayed by my own pocket

The Lib Dem guy keeps calling my mobile phone trying to get me to pay £20 to attend the local party "boo-fay with one glass one wine".  On Friday night, he called three times.  I ignored him.  My pocket, however, didn't.  My pocket answered the damn phone on the second of his calls and I had to hang up when I realised we were connected.  

In the meantime, Sarah Teather has ignorantly said that the government "has to be careful not to rush into" ending child immigration detention precisely because it is about dealing with the "safety and wellbeing" of often vulnerable children: http://www.libdems.org.uk/latest_news_detail.aspx?title=Teather%3A_Coalition_is_committed_to_ending_child_detention&pPK=5ad34976-9f39-4956-b77a-4cfb0e38cef4

These are the same children who Nick Clegg was talking about in December when he referred to detention as "state sponsored cruelty": http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk_politics/8413106.stm

Remind us, Clegg.  Who runs the State now?  Who's sponsoring the cruelty to children?

No... I'm not spending £20 on attending a local party "boo-fay", thanks very much.  If child detention continues in another few months then I'm canceling my membership anyway.

Friday 17 September 2010

Deal of a lifetime

So the Lib Dem guy who's been trying to get in touch with me finally left a message.  He's invited me to a post-lib dem conference social in our local area.  I thought it sounded reasonably okay... possibly tempting if I wasn't feeling quite so disenfranchised, but then he said what it would cost.  "£20 for a buffet (pronounced boo-fay) and a glass of wine".  And he didn't say it was a gourmet buffet either or whether it would be particularly nice wine, so I can only imagine it would end up being sausage rolls, crisps and (strictly one glass of) Blue Nun.

I'm not returning his call.  Not until children are let out of immigration detention.  If indeed they ever are.  And not if they just deport them all instead, like the proposed reception centre for unaccompanied minors in Kabul suggests they'll do.  Gee, thanks a lot Lib Dems.  You're really getting the hang of what's really involved in politics.  I'll talk again when the party does something good for all it's bullshit rhetoric.  The irony is I'd really like to be an MP one day.  Do I really have to compromise my ethics to do so?

Wednesday 15 September 2010

Narkier than thou

I've got nothing to really complain about. I should put this first before I proceed to complain.  The fact that top of my list is really something very petty should give you a clue about the pleasant life I lead.

Things that have annoyed me today:

1. For two hours and 12 minutes (since 2pm) I have been feeling narky over the fact that another team - who have recently begun using our meeting space - descended like a flock of birds on the second half of the baklava that I'd bought for my team to share.  It's not that I feel terribly precious about it or anything or would have denied them a piece of two, but I do think that they were a bit off in finishing it off without a thought for whether they contribute cake/tasty things to our area.  I think it's impolite.  And they're a nice bunch of people and I'm not petty enough to point it out to them, but it's impolite. Nay, it's rude.  And this started off my narkiness.

2. The other thing is that I've received another funding proposal to review from the same organisation responsible for processing my funding application (and which has already rejected two prior versions).  I'm feeling narky because I am a referee, yet can't seem to get my own proposal funded.  I just hope they fund this latest version or I'll really get narky.

And so that's it for now.  It's not much, and it's certainly not enough to make me fume, but it's enough to make me narky... narked with the world.

I may as well add a number 3: it's only 16.18pm.  And I'm all out of baklava.

Monday 13 September 2010

Politics

As you might remember, I joined the Liberal Democrat party during the recent election in response to two things:

1. The party's positive stance on asylum seekers
2. The fact that finally it seemed to have gained a decent leader, which it had lacked for a long time.

I went on a day's canvassing around the neighbourhood in support of the local party, and intended to do more but felt a bit put off... The thing that got me was that the local candidate wasn't campaigning very much for his seat, but seemed more of a paper candidate.  I only realised on the day that the results were released that the same person had been standing for both a council and a Commons seat.  Which explained why he only seemed interested in supporting a council seat campaign... He'd already been very honest with me about his intention not to campaign for the Commons seat but he'd left out the bit where he was one of the council seat candidates. I thought he was simply supporting the campaign of another council candidate, in a very charitable and tactical way.  So I came away thinking he was a duplicitous arse.

Since then the local party's made a few attempts at contacting me but I've so far kept my distance. I've wanted to see how well the Lib Dems perform as part of the coalition and see what they make of the rope they've arguably been given to hang themselves. And I am waiting to see if they screw up over asylum seekers because then I would have to withdraw my support.

So far, all of their lovely, progressive rhetoric in their manifesto on the topic has come to nothing. Nothing. Even the concession that they got the Conservatives to make in promising to release child detainees has come to nothing so far. Children are still being detained. They are still being damaged by the process.  Some children try to kill themselves, otherwise become emotionally fragile in these settings. I find it all deeply immoral and nauseating.  There are a lot of problems in the asylum determination system that make it impossible to say that those who are ultimately refused asylum are "bogus asylum seekers". That they don't have real protection needs. There are a lot of reasons why the system doesn't work well and I'm very happy to share these with anyone who's really interested.

In other words, there is no real need to continue to maintain hostile, cruel policies like child and family detention. The government could, I believe, just decide to end the practice like they promised to do several months ago.  They could and they should.  Without doing so, they are responsible for the continued state abuse of children.

On Friday, a representative of the local party called me for a chat. I'm not sure what he wanted. It wasn't a good time to talk. But it's fair to assume he'll want to know what I would like to get involved in locally.  The answer at the moment is nothing. I think I'll just not answer his next call.  I really like politics, but I feel as disenfranchised as ever.

Tuesday 7 September 2010

Okay. I think I'll set up camp here.

Typepad was rubbish, so here I am.

Let's see if I have anything to say.  On the plus-side for you, no more QOTDs!